Judo is bjjs slightly less useful cousin. At least you'll be harder to take down. I'd probably see if i could learn wrestling somewhere. Maybe train with the local high school or division 3 college? You can usually find boxing cheap
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Not saying it's better or worse than BJJ either, just a lot cheaper.
You know what's great for self defense? Shooting lessons. I'll **** up any judo/BJJ/wrestling/MT expert.
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For mma, I would take bjj for sure, but for the kind of things that happen day to day (a stranger grabs you or a belligerent friend has to be subdued) I think judo is more useful. This is probably because every self-defense situation I've been in has been effectively solved with judo and I'm not sure they would have been as effectively solved with techniques more commonly practiced in BJJ. In two situations, I was grabbed by an angry individual who I would guess wanted to put me on the ground and hit me. Both times tha person ended up taking a quick ride, after which they didn't want to fight. The other times have been bigger belligerent drunks trying to hurt other people. Both times I stepped in, tied them up (judo grip fighting skills), and settled them down.
Obviously none of these was an immediate life/death moment (Thumpin has covered those already).
I suppose this could be a moot point because some BJJ clubs work on takedowns and gripfighting regularly and some judo clubs spend a lot of time on ground work. In the end, the rule sets of the sports are what make them different. Like you, I love both sports. Take both if you can.