More specifically, I suggest that you either limit your choice of partners to people you completely trust, or you acknowledge that every time you park your dick in a meat box your doing something that has a very real chance of some seriously life altering consequences. You either **** up your own life (child support or unwanted kid, STD's, etc) or her life (same issue's as the guy plus very real social and professional consequences). Both parents are on the hook for how ****ed up the kids life is (no guarantee that adoptive parents are going to be awesome parents).
Suggesting that getting an abortion or giving up a child for adoption is not something that can seriously **** up a persons mental and emotional stability is just ****ing stupid.
Anyway, I fully acknowledge that my views on this may not be shared. We can disagree, and I think this is a good time for me to leave the conversation. Neither of us is likely to convince the other that they are wrong here.